Sunday, 28 April 2013

How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes behind your veil are doves. Your hair is like a flock of goats descending from the hills of Gilead. – Song of Songs 4:1


Today’s Scripture Reading (April 28, 2013): Song of Songs 4

In the fifth book of the George R. R. Martin’s epic story “A Song of Ice and Fire” (which has become more popularly known as “The Game of Thrones”) we find an all too familiar story of a man who feels that the only way that he can prove his power is to dominate the woman that he is married to. In this case the man was an illegitimate born son of a ruler whose rise to power only seemed to be because there was simply no one else. No one values him, and so he does not value anyone else either. And it is those that are closest to him – including his new bride – that suffers the consequences for the way that he feels. And that is tragic, but even more tragic is that those who are near him learn to accept it, they drink in the feelings of their own inadequacies and, as a result, the cycle simply continues with them.

It is not an unknown story in the reality of our lives. We know the story. If we have not experienced the story, we know someone who has. They are our neighbors, and our acquaintances, and sometimes even our friends – and we weep with them and for them. Some of us, in the quiet moments of our lives, can also look inside of ourselves and see the areas of our own lives where our growth has been stunted because of the things that have happened to us. It was not supposed to be this way – but that does not change the reality that it is that way. But we want it to be different.

There is no way that we can look at Solomon’s growing up years, and the way that he was damaged simply because of the way his family was. It was the competition with his brothers for the throne of Israel, the death of siblings way too soon all because of the actions that they committed – and all of this had to have an effect on Solomon, but he is valiantly trying to refuse to let all of the negative come out in his actions with the ones that are closest to him. Solomon demonstrates the art of “positive communication” with his bride. He tells her that she is beautiful – words that every woman needs to hear. And then he starts to describe her. Now, your hair is like goats descending off of a hill may not sound beautiful to us, but it would have to Solomon’s beloved. In Solomon’s day the goats would have been dark in color and at the end of the day as the sun was setting behind the hills and the goats were coming down the hill, there was this beautiful flowing motion to the sight. And as he looks at the dark hair of his bride, he tells her that it is this beautiful image that he sees when he looks at her.

There is so much negative in our lives. It comes to us whether we want it or not. And the only way that we can overcome the damage that is being done to us on almost a daily basis is if the people who are closest to us continually remind us of why we are beautiful – and valuable. And as much as we need that positive energy from them, they need it from us. It is the relational covenant that we need to take hold of if we want this world to ever be a place of peace and hope.  

Tomorrow’s Scripture Reading: Song of Songs 5

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