Monday 23 April 2012

I want you to swear by the LORD, the God of heaven and the God of earth, that you will not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I am living … Genesis 24:3


Today’s Scripture Reading (April 23, 2012): Genesis 24

One of the perennial questions that we struggle with deals with question of who influences who. I think we all want to be people of influence. It seems to be a trait that is buried deep in our core. When we speak, we hope that people will listen to our words and consider what it is that we have to say. But, we also know that the reverse is often true. Sometimes we are the ones who are influenced. And sometimes that is because we want to be influenced. It is the reason why we ask questions – we want a deeper understanding of something. And the invitation is for those that have either knowledge or an opinion to weigh in on the discussion. The opinion is important enough for us to ask the question, so we are waiting and open to the influence of others who are willing to make the argument. But, sometimes, influence is not wanted, but the words wash over us violently anyways and change us in the process. But maybe the most dangerous kind of influence is the influence that we don’t even realize is happening. And slowly our opinions begin to change as we bend to the wind of opinion.

One of the factors of influence is simply the deepness of relationship. The deeper the relationship and the more we are attracted by the character of the person, the more likely we are to be influenced. And that influence can slowly carry us away even from our core values.

There is an old Mexican saying “la casa no se reclina sobre la tierra, sino sobre una mujer” – “The house does not rest upon the ground, but upon a woman.” It seemed that, maybe, Abraham had heard a similar saying . As he watched the Canaanite lifestyle deteriorate into evil, he knew that he needed to find a wife for Isaac from among another culture. After all, the house of Isaac would rest on her and, while he would influence her, she would also influence him. And the last thing he wanted for his son was that his life would decline into evil in the same way as his neighbours lives had.

And it is one of the reasons why we still want our children to seriously consider the character of the people that they draw into their inner circle of friends. It isn’t that we want to limit their influence, but we recognize that they are vulnerable to be influenced by the people that they respect. Or maybe, it is because we recognize with Abraham that Jason Gideon (character on the Criminal Minds – TV Show) was right – “In my experience, evil is not a cultural phenomenon; it is a human one.” And if influenced negatively, evil is something of which we are all vulnerable.

Tomorrow’s Scripture Reading: Genesis 25

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